Jon asked me the question - “how, when a woman is already beautiful, do you make them feel beautiful?” Great question – but let me start with the disclaimer. . . Every woman is different, so if you want to know what makes your specific woman feel beautiful – ask her.
In general, here are some guidelines on what to do and what not to do. . .
1) Pick something new to compliment: Women put a lot of effort in what we look like and it feels good when the man you are with notices. Notice the cute freckle on her nose, the way her lips pucker up when she’s thinking or even the new pair of shoes she bought. Notice something different that is unique to her.
- Do Not: If you compliment her shoes, don’t harp on how much they cost. Don’t take away from niceness of the compliment.
2) Let her see you checking her out: Yep, if she’s wearing a skirt that shows a little leg – 
look. A pair of jeans that compliments her booty – look. Let her see you look. Nonverbal goes a long way with a woman.
- Do Not: Let her see you check out another woman. Bad, Bad, Bad – read my blog on using your peripherals.
3) Flirt with her in public: Brag on her with your friends standing by or whisper in her hear how she is the most beautiful woman in the room or you have ever seen.
- Do Not Flirt with the waitress (I would hope I didn’t have to say that) or ask when her friend with the DD breasts will be coming over for dinner.
4) Be kind and don’t lie: If something isn’t as flattering on her use gentle words. Tell her she is beautiful in anything but__ is more flattering. She will understand without you having to be rude.
- Don’t say: Baby, you are beautiful, but your butt is big enough to screen the new Will Ferrell movie
5) Kiss Her: In public, at home. . . just lay one of those movie kisses on her. Tingle, tingle. Nothing makes a woman feel sexier or more beautiful.
I hope that helps!
Ladies, if you have any other suggestions for Jon – please send a comment and let him know.
August 6, 2009 at 7:16 am
Thank you. That helps.
August 8, 2009 at 8:08 am
i think number 4 is the best one
August 8, 2009 at 8:32 am
That’s my favorite as well
August 10, 2009 at 6:11 pm
Fab post!
I think this may fall into category number 4 but I think that honesty is a good one to add as well. When a woman asks your opinion on how she looks offer your honest feedback. Just be sincere and TACTFUL. LOL
I think that’s most guys’ problem: we blurt out the first thing that comes to mind without considering how our significant other might take it.
What I do is compliment often (from the heart) and show her as much attention as we both can comfortably handle. Can’t go wrong doing that.
August 20, 2009 at 5:32 am
What do I do when my woman wants to feel desired by other men and not me. She believes I will love her if she is over 300 lbs, she seems to need others appreciation than mine?
August 20, 2009 at 8:16 am
Don’t kid yourself; she does want to be desired by you! Some women gain their self esteem by being noticed by men – so notice her and give her the admiration she longs for. Ask her what makes her feel beautiful.
On a side note – every couple should read “His Needs/ Her Needs” by Willard Harley. It outlines specific things that both genders need – He Needs an attractive spouse, She needs Affection – etc.
August 20, 2009 at 1:53 pm
@Jon I don’t think that she wants to be desired by other men so much as she may need additional attention from you that you aren’t providing.
Observe what the other guy(s) does and why it causes your wife to respond the way she does. You can then simply choose to do as they do or, if you are both comfortable talking about it, ask her if the way other guys react to seeing her is how she would like for you to respond.
You could then let her know how you feel about other guys giving her attention and continue to dialogue from there.
My wife and I went through something similar but the roles were reversed; women were coming on to me. The attention was nice but I had to let them know I was married and that was that. I went on to tell my wife that I liked the attention they gave me and she began to provide more of what I needed. How cool, right?
Like Loria said, ask her what makes her feel beautiful, what makes her feel sexy and desired and then act accordingly. Good luck to you buddy!
August 21, 2009 at 5:48 am
Michael – very well said! Thank you. People only seek outside their relationship what they cannot get inside their relationship. . .
August 21, 2009 at 6:30 am
My pleasure Loria. Hopefully, I wasn’t too long winded.
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